Medicine, Marriage, Family

I remember when I was considering applying to medical school being terrified that becoming a doctor meant I’d never be able to have a family. Every Google search led to horror stories about divorce, blogs berating physicians that chose to have children, and forums full of miserable doctors. I almost chose a different career path purely out of fear.

As I’ve mentioned before I strive to make this blog a balance of medicine and other things – particularly family. I want my blog to serve as a place for pre-meds and medical students with these worries to find a positive story.

I love blogging about medical training and education, but the goal of Mind On Medicine has always been to create a place to write what we might sit down and talk about over a cup of coffee…and I can guarantee right now there would be lots of talk about mothering multiples, being a working mom, breastfeeding twins, returning to work, sleeping in 2 hour chunks, etc.

So, in order to continue in my endeavor to have work-life balance on this blog, I’m going to be starting what we will oh-so-creatively refer to as “Twin Tuesday.” On Tuesdays I’ll share anecdotes about adorable babies (obviously), but I also hope to delve into some of the challenges and excitements of being a mother in medicine.

I hope if you stumbled on this blog and you’re worried about medicine and family life and marriage that you will stick around! It’s not easy, but it is possible…it’s an adventure that I’m so glad I have chosen to embark on. And, while I still have a ways to go, knowing what I know now I’d still choose to do it this way!

Also, if you’re considering throwing your dreams of medicine out the window because you think you have to choose one or the other, I hope you’ll email me first so we can chat. I’ve been in your shoes!

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  • So glad you’ll be doing this! I’ll be starting med school in the fall but all the horror stories I’ve been hearing have been making me worry.
    p.s. your twins are adorable!

  • Hi Danielle! My name is Claudia and I am an italian med student. this is my last year too and I am a future Ob/Gyn too with an interest in reproductive endocrinology and infertility treatments. I’ve found your blog throught twitter (I am @maclaudiaa) and of course it is so very interesting to me. It is amazing that the net allow us to follow someone else’s path mirrored to ours but far an entire ocean :) Congrats for your work here and for your super cute babies! I am definitely following your “twin tuesdays”, it is a great idea!

    Bye! I’ll return here soon 😉

  • You’re my hero.

  • LOVE! You’re amazing and will be the best mom/doctor ever! All of my favorite doctors are terrific mommies, and you’ll be no exception. :)

  • I’ve been reading your blog for a while now. I just wanted to say how much I appreciate your voice of reason in terms of medicine and having a family. I’m currently a post-bacc student, but I get so angry/scared/frustrated about all the threads on SDN about how being a physician and getting married/having a family (heck, even a dog is pushing it for some of those people) is nearly “impossible”. I feel like there is always a disproportionate amount of MEN that are saying these things and posting about their opinions…and so I always feel like I’m alone in these kinds of worries.

    I’m looking forward to hearing about your balance between career, family, hobbies. I follow a few other doctor mom blogs, and it’s usually so nice to hear an HONEST opinion from people who are currently LIVING their dream.

  • I am very excited for Twin Tuesdays!! I remember when we (meaning the greater medical Twitter community) were trying to convince you that you could post pictures of your dog and still be considered a serious professional blogger :)

    Congratulations again many times over, so excited your girls are well, healthy, and that you feel comfortable and relaxed enough in your life to be sharing them with us.

  • Thank you so much for doing this!! I have seriously been considering medical school for about 2 years now. I am not the traditional medical student and I am now in my mid- to late twenties. I am currently working as a Clinical Dietitian and I honestly feel that I unfortunately chose the wrong profession. I have a strong interest in medicine and have also considered PA school because my thoughts have been….”I will surely have more of a work-life balance as a PA.” I want to be a good wife and mother one day but I am so concerned that if I pursue medical school this will not be possible.

    How can I email you? I would love to chat if you have a few minutes to spare.

    Thanks again and congrats on your precious babies!!

    • Hi Ruth!

      I think PA is a great route for many people and it is one I considered for myself. Ultimately, I decided medical school was the way for me, but that’s not to say PA is not also a great option for medicine and motherhood. :)

      You can email me at MindOnMed@gmail.com or click the “Contact Me” button at the top of the page!

  • SO glad I found your blog! It’s like you’re living my wanna-be life. I’m a 2nd year med student leaning towards OB/GYN because birth and babies fascinate me, especially multiples. I have felt pulled in 2 different directions since getting married and starting med school less than 2 months apart, and it is refreshing to find someone who’s balancing life as a wife, mother, and a physician and is happy doing it!

  • […] me and my family, much like Dr. Au explains here. There are many other doctor-moms out there like Dr. Jones and of course many awesome women that I once worked with who are able to balance family and the […]

  • Just wanted to say thank you so much for sharing your story. I come from a long line of amazing mothers and have known way before I chose to take the medical school route that being a mom was something I wanted. Like others, I’ve read crazy horror story blogs about relationships and motherhood and how they seem incompatible with practicing medicine. I wish others like you would speak up so those of us starting out could be assured it is possible to be a wife, mother and physician! Thank you :)

  • I love your spirt girl.

  • Just stumbled across your blog while frantically googling tips for med school interviews. I take my MCAT in 2 weeks, and my score will complete my application. I am a 21-year old, newlywed, average-to-below-average applicant (great letters of recommendation, tons of shadowing and volunteering, people skills, work experience etc….but a crappy GPA due to making straight B’s 3 semesters in a row as a new collegiate). Anyway, I was wondering, if you don’t mind me asking, why didn’t you get accepted into med school on your first attempt? I’m terrified of that rejection letter from my state school. I am; however, applying to several D.O. schools as a plan B, C, D, and E. I hope that’s not a rude question! Thank you!
    P.S: your blog hits so close to home for me and I’m so glad I’ve found it. :)

  • Hi! Thank you so much for this blog. I was so excited when I came across it while searching ob/gyn residency lifestyle today… I am a third year med student with 7 month old twins and interested in ob/gyn but terrified of what I’d have to sacrifice in terms of family life. I know this post is really old, but if you don’t mind sharing what residency with twins has been like, I would really appreciate it!

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I'm an ObGyn. I started this blog as a medical student (some would call that doctor school) and now I'm working as an Ob/Gyn, which is seriously the coolest job ever. I'm a twin mom and recently added a baby brudder to the mix. My life story through November 2010 can be viewed here. The events in the many years following can be summed up as wedding bells, books, exams, babies, and doctoring. I started this blog in hopes of landing a role in a Lifetime movie so I could quit medicine and move to Hollywood, but that hasn't happened...so if you wouldn't take medical advice from Angelina Jolie, you shouldn't take it from me. I may not even be a real person. In fact, I'm probably a spambot. Or possibly a 15 yo boy blogging from a dingy basement. If you're really interested you can read more about me here. If you have any questions or want to guest post contact me.

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