Questions People Ask Twin Moms

From the moment you find out you’re having a baby people have questions – is it a boy or a girl, what are you naming it, how are you feeling? When they find out you’re having multiples, the questions increase exponentially by the number of babies gestating in your uterus. And, when those babies finally arrive and you take them out and about, people have even more questions!

As A Twin Mom, Always Be Prepared To Answer The Following Questions:

  • Are they twins?
    No, they’re triplets…oh my gosh, have you seen their brother?!
  • Are they identical?
    No.
  • They look the same. Are you sure they aren’t identical?
    Yes.
  • How do you know they aren’t identical?
    They have different blood types. And hair colors. And eye colors.
  • Are they “natural?”
    No, actually we made them from MSG and Red Dye #40 in our garage.
  • You had a c-section, right?
    Yes, because they tried their hardest to come out feet first…not because they are twins.
  • Are you getting any sleep?
    They’ve slept 10 hrs straight every night since the day we brought them home. Why? Do you think I look tired?
  • Are they your first?
    And second.
  • Will you have any more?
    I’m due in 8 months!
  • How do you tell them apart?
    I can’t really, each morning I just pick one to be Amelia and one to be Reese…surely it will balance out eventually.
  • Do twins run in your family? 
    They can’t even walk yet…but they’ll probably run some day.

In all honesty I don’t mind the questions – I’m so proud of these two that it makes me really happy other people are interested in them! Sometimes it does get old being able to predict every conversation I’ll have while I’m waiting in line at Baby Gap, but I’m so grateful to have healthy babies I could answer these simple questions all day long.

Speaking of Baby Gap, though – that place is the holy grail of adorable baby clothes. I wish I could get them to sponsor this blog – surely one of you has the connections to make that happen. MAKE THAT HAPPEN!

Any other twin moms out there get asked the same questions over and over? 

Medicine, Marriage, Family

I remember when I was considering applying to medical school being terrified that becoming a doctor meant I’d never be able to have a family. Every Google search led to horror stories about divorce, blogs berating physicians that chose to have children, and forums full of miserable doctors. I almost chose a different career path purely out of fear.

As I’ve mentioned before I strive to make this blog a balance of medicine and other things – particularly family. I want my blog to serve as a place for pre-meds and medical students with these worries to find a positive story.

I love blogging about medical training and education, but the goal of Mind On Medicine has always been to create a place to write what we might sit down and talk about over a cup of coffee…and I can guarantee right now there would be lots of talk about mothering multiples, being a working mom, breastfeeding twins, returning to work, sleeping in 2 hour chunks, etc.

So, in order to continue in my endeavor to have work-life balance on this blog, I’m going to be starting what we will oh-so-creatively refer to as “Twin Tuesday.” On Tuesdays I’ll share anecdotes about adorable babies (obviously), but I also hope to delve into some of the challenges and excitements of being a mother in medicine.

I hope if you stumbled on this blog and you’re worried about medicine and family life and marriage that you will stick around! It’s not easy, but it is possible…it’s an adventure that I’m so glad I have chosen to embark on. And, while I still have a ways to go, knowing what I know now I’d still choose to do it this way!

Also, if you’re considering throwing your dreams of medicine out the window because you think you have to choose one or the other, I hope you’ll email me first so we can chat. I’ve been in your shoes!

What Is This “Match” Thing, Anyway?

First off – I’m back from blogging maternity leave – celebration dances may commence! Oh, you thought you got rid of me because I birthed two babies at one time? Oh no, friends, it won’t be nearly that easy to get rid of me.

Now, for our regularly scheduled post of insightful information.

If I had a dollar for every time someone has asked me “hey you did all those interviews (while ridiculously huge and pregnant), did you get a job yet?” I’d probably have 14 pesos by now. Nobody outside of medicine understands how this works…and quite honestly, I can’t imagine why they would want to…but I’m going to try to break it down into simple bullets as well as I can. This is an extremely basic overview.

Applying To Residency – The Basics

  • Medical school is four years long.
  • Sometime during the third year most people choose a specialty. I chose Ob/Gyn.
  • In the Fall semester of your fourth year residency applications are due.
  • Some specialties have different application processes, this blog discusses the most common.

Interviewing For Residency Positions

  • After applications are in programs offer interviews.
  • Interview season is generally from September – January of fourth year.
  • People do an average of 10 interviews, depending on competitiveness.

Applicants Make A “Rank List”

  • After all interviews are completed we rank each place we interviewed based on how badly we would like to go there. I interviewed 10 places and ranked 7 – you’re allowed to leave any places you don’t think you’d want to go off your list and this guarantees you won’t end up there.
  •  Rank lists this year were due February 20, 2013. (yesterday! eek!!)

Programs Make A “Rank List”

  • Programs rank applicants who interviewed according to how badly they want them to join their program. Like applicants, programs are allowed to choose not to rank a certain person if they really don’t think they’re a good fit for the program.
The Match
  • A very large, Alien-manned computer located somewhere between here and Venus uses a mysterious, Big Bang Theory-type algorithm to calculate where an applicant will “match.”
  • This pairing goes in favor of the applicant – so applicants get matched to the highest place on their list that also ranked them.
  • The idea is to put the largest number of applicants possible at the programs they really liked. This is the extent of my understanding. If you’d like the nitty gritty on how the actual algorithm works you can read about it here.
  • The Monday before Match Day applicants find out if they matched. Applicants who don’t match enter into the Supplemental Offer Acceptance Program (SOAP), that’s a whole blog post in itself.

Match Day – March 15, 2013

  • MATCH DAY! Friday you gather with your classmates for a big, fancy ceremony and celebration. At our school we have an exciting morning filled with friends and food. Everyone gets an envelope with their name on the outside and destiny on the inside. At 11am we all open them together to find out where we will be spending the next 3-7 years. Obviously, everyone hopes for their #1 choice, but most people are happy with any of their top 3 or 4.

 
So, no I haven’t technically gotten a job from all those interviews I did…yet! I will find out on Monday, March 11 IF I got a job and Friday, March 15 WHERE I got a job.

Residency is your first real job as a doctor, we will all technically receive our MD in May. However, residency is continued supervised training. So, while we are doctors and we do get paid (instead of paying tuition, finally), we are just baby doctors. The average resident physician pay is about $45,000/year and the work weeks are typically 80 hours long. That comes out to $notverymuch/hr for someone with a doctorate level education, but it makes sense – we’re still learning how to be really great doctors and someone has to make sure we are doing a good job!

There, clear as mud…now how should I spend all these pesos?